Seminar: Avoiding Destructive Relationships When Chronically Ill

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When you think of destructive relationships, what comes to mind? Is it different than abusive relationships? Most people think of some kind of physical, verbal, or sexual abuse. However, there are many other harmful relational patterns that are not necessarily recognized as “abusive.” This session will help you see more clearly what’s wrong in relationships that hurt you and help you decide if you have the power to change them. For example, if your spouse complains all the time about how you are “lazy” instead of understanding your illness, where do you go from here?

You’ll learn to identify the underlying heart issues at work in these relationships and Be empowered to respond to problems in a biblical, life-giving way. You will learn to say “No “ without feeling guilty. Take a positive step toward building healthy relationships in your life and avoid those abusive relationships.


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Audio file – Leslie Vernick

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About Leslie Vernick

Leslie Vernick is a popular speaker, author, licensed clinical social worker and life coach with a private counseling practice in Pennsylvania. She has over 25 years of experience helping individuals, couples and families heal, rebuild or grow their relationships. Whether counseling, speaking or writing, Leslie gently leads people to make real changes in their lives. She loves helping people learn to:

  • Confidently speak thoughts and feelings in a constructive way.
  • Encounter God’s peace and presence in the midst of suffering or difficult loss.
  • Develop the discipline to turn dreams and desires into reality

Leslie is the author of six books, including the best selling, The Emotionally Destructive Relationship and her most recent Lord, I Just Want to be Happy.

Leslie currently serves on the Board of Directors for Lighthouse Network, a Christian mental health outreach ministry and Beneath His Wings, A Christian outreach for women needing shelter from abusive relationships. She has had the unique privilege to teach in Iraq, Russia, Romania, Hungary, and the Philippines. She is also featured in three of the American Association of Christian Counselor video teaching series including ExtraOrdinary Women and Marriage Works.

Leslie and her husband, Howard, have been married for over 34 years and they have two adult children and she loves being a new grandmother.

Get to know Leslie! Leslie’s web site | Leslie on Facebook | Leslie on Twitter

Some of Leslie’s books: The Emotionally Destructive Relationship: Seeing It, Stopping It, Surviving It, How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong, and her most recent Lord, I Just Want to Be Happy.


  1. Beth says

    I have several invisible illnesses including lupus, and I’m on disability. This, I feel has hampered my dealing with the emotionally destructive aspects in my LTR; I can’t just “go” to show that I won’t allow myself to be treated certain ways. (I don’t drive at the moment due to my medical problems; don’t have anywhere to stay on a temporary basis, and don’t have the resources for a more permanent move.)

    I really identified with a lot of what Leslie was saying though and I’m going to look into more of her work. I had a problem hearing the audio on Leslie’s end; it was very distorted at times and I often missed or couldn’t understand what she was saying in her responses to the questions. Kind of frustrating; hopefully a “cleaned up” version of the audio might be made available so the whole interview can be heard clearly? I could hear the interviewers voice quite clearly so I think others may have this same problem fully understanding what Leslie is saying? In any case, thank you for sharing the video and information! :-)

    • admin says

      Beth, I know… It was Skype. This interview of Leslie’s had the worst audio. I tried to “clean it up” and my husband does for this for a living at Sony and this was the version that he got in the end. It was frustrating to all of us. But, she is my favorite counselor and all of her books (and her site) are fantastic resources. I would recommend them all without hesitation–and I do so to people frequently!

  2. Jody says

    “It’s not what happens to us that causes most damage…it’s what we do with what happens to us.” AWESOME!!! This was so wonderful! My dear husband is having so much difficulty understanding and relating to my illness and the change that has happened. You have provided some extremely helpful advice and information to help me with ME and hopefully help him now too!

  3. Kristie says

    This was sooo good! There is hope..Thank you Lisa and Leslie.
    I am suffering horribly, live alone and have chronic invisible illnesses. Destructive relationships..the heartache and stress have become almost unbearable. It’s taking huge toll on my health. I am hurting and in a very dark place.
    I will be going to Leslie’s website..but I need counsel. Oh, how I wish there was someone in my area like her. Any ideas?

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