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If you have an invisible illness you have likely heard people say, “well, you look fine” or “you just have too much stress.” I have put together a video featuring a sampling of some of these things we hear. I couldn’t believe how easy it was to write the script, because I just started scribbling down all of the things I have heard over the past twenty years of living with degenerative rheumatoid arthritis.
I didn’t make this video to make people who are trying to be helpful feel badly and I didn’t do it to make those of us who are ill to feel angry with them.
Rather, let’s use this as a learning opportunity. Those of us who are ill can watch this and know that when people say these kinds of things to us it is so common that there is a video with those comments! It’s not personal–it’s just typical.
And for our friends or loved ones we may share it with, it’s a chance for them to possibly hear their own voice and be aware that words really can hurt.
If you like it, please share it! And we also have 20 tweets on this very topic you can share as well. Thanks, friends.