Video: What NOT to say to an ill person

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not to say to an ill person video Video: What NOT to say to an ill personIf you have an invisible illness you have likely heard people say, “well, you look fine” or “you just have too much stress.” I have put together a video featuring a sampling of some of these things we hear. I couldn’t believe how easy it was to write the script, because I just started scribbling down all of the things I have heard over the past twenty years of living with degenerative rheumatoid arthritis.

I didn’t make this video to make people who are trying to be helpful feel badly and I didn’t do it to make those of us who are ill to feel angry with them.

Rather, let’s use this as a learning opportunity. Those of us who are ill can watch this and know that when people say these kinds of things to us it is so common that there is a video with those comments! It’s not personal–it’s just typical.

And for our friends or loved ones we may share it with, it’s a chance for them to possibly hear their own voice and be aware that words really can hurt.

If you like it, please share it! And we also have 20 tweets on this very topic you can share as well. Thanks, friends.

-ljc

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25 Illness Facts to Tweet

August 17, 2013 by  
Filed under Statistics, Things to Retweet

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illness 25 Illness Facts to TweetDespite over 100 million USA residents living with a chronic condition, most people still don’t know that much about chronic illness.

In a society where if you are ill you take a pill–and soon recover, the idea that you may have an illness forever–well, people tend to think that just happens to people with poor lifestyle choices, like smoking and drinking and such.

Here is a lit of 25 facts about chronic illness and invisible illness. Feel free to share and be sure to follow us @invisibleillwk on Twitter.

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk10 Fact #1 Nearly 1 in 2 Americans (133 million) has a chronic condition. Not U? It’s someone U luv! http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #2 About 96% of illnesses are invisible. No visible signs and no assistive device used. http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #3 The significance of one’s faith has shown to help one handle a stressful medical event better http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #4 Sadly, the divorce rate among the chronically ill is over 75 percent http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #5 ppl with illness are young! 60% are between the ages of 18 and 64 http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #6 By 2020, about 157 million Americans will be afflicted by chronic illnesses. http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #7 90% of seniors have at least one chronic disease and 77% have two or more chronic diseases. http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #8 Depression is 15-20% higher for the chronically ill than for the average person. http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #9 Sadly, physical illness or uncontrollable physical pain are major factors in up to 70% of suicides. http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #10 About one in four adults suffer from a diagnosable mental disorder in a given year. http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #11 Invisible illness includes #autism, #bulimia, #migraine pain, #arthritis, #bi-polar disorder #depression. http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #12 More ppl need pain treatment than those w/ cancer, heart disease, stroke & diabetes combined. http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #13 Less than 2 hours is spent on pain management in most medical school curriculum http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #14 Most people prefer illness mgmt advice from health professionals before their spouse http://ow.ly/72fO

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #15 19 million of ppl who are severely disabled do not use a wheelchair, cane, crutches or walker http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #16 4 in 5 health care dollars 78% are spent on people with chronic conditions in USA http://ow.ly/72g4

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #17 Patients with a deep faith recover faster from depression,even when illness doesn’t improve. http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #18 Faith reduces stress, loneliness, pain, & anxiety according to American Cancer Society http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #19 Over half of the chronically ill say the worst thing someone can say is “you look great.” http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #20 34% of respondents said the person closest to them with a chronic illness is a parent. http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #21 Most medical residents leave med school believing that 80% patients R addicts seeking drugs. http://ow.ly/72gP

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #22 Over 75 percent of patients with depression complain of physical pains. http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #23 The # of ppl in the US 65 > will double in the 25 yrs to 20% of Americans = more illness. http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #24 Depression can predispose patients to chronic pain due to chemical imbalance it creates. http://ow.ly/6Otw

RT @invisibleillwk #iiwk13 Fact #25 Faith gives ppl w/ health challenges peace of mind & will to live http://ow.ly/6Otw

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Tweets! 20 Things to Say to an Ill Person

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say to ill friend tweets1 Tweets! 20 Things to Say to an Ill Person

What can you say to an ill person that will make him or her feel BETTER?

We here plenty of things of what not to say to an ill person, but sometimes this leaves our friends and loved ones saying nothing at all. They can begin to feel like everything they say is wrong, so maybe they should just stop talking.

There are, however, some words we who are ill long to hear and they can stand out when one is inundated with things they’d prefer not to hear. We hope this gives people an idea of some small words that make a difference.

If you are a “visual” person, check out this page with all the tweets made into images. Each image also links to a short article on why it really matters. These are great to share on Facebook or Pinterest and other social media where images stand out.

Thank you for tweeting any of them any time!

Feel free to add your own ideas in the comments below. We’d love to hear them!

Things TO SAY to an ill person #1 I don’t know what to say, but I care about you http://ow.ly/oewZi#iiwk13

Things TO SAY to an ill person #2 I’m going to the grocery, what can I get you? http://ow.ly/oewZi#iiwk13

Things TO SAY to an ill person #3 Do you just need to vent? I’m all ears! http://ow.ly/oewZi#iiwk13

Things TO SAY to an ill person #4 If you need a good cry, I’ve got plenty of tissues and a shoulder http://ow.ly/oewZi#iiwk13

Things TO SAY to an ill person #5 I really admire how you are handling this. I know its difficult. http://ow.ly/oewZi#iiwk13

Things TO SAY to an ill person #6 I’m bringing dinner Thursday. Do you want lasagna or chicken? http://ow.ly/oewZi#iiwk13

Things TO SAY to an ill person #7 Can I get your kids 4 a playdate? My kids R bored. http://ow.ly/oewZi#iiwk13

Things TO SAY to an ill person #8 I cant sit still. Got any laundry I can fold? http://ow.ly/oewZi#iiwk13

-Things TO SAY to an ill person #9 What can I pray 4 you about that no one else is praying 4? http://ow.ly/oewZi#iiwk13

Things TO SAY to an ill person #10 Can I bring a few friends over 2 clean your house fast? http://ow.ly/oewZi#iiwk13

Things TO SAY to an ill person #11 I don’t have any idea what U R feeling, but I will always listen http://ow.ly/oewZi#iiwk13

Things TO SAY to an ill person #12 I saw these flowers & thought they’d cheer you 2day http://ow.ly/oewZi#iiwk13

Things TO SAY to an ill person #13 How can our church encourage those with chronic illness? http://ow.ly/oewZi#iiwk13

Things TO SAY to an ill person #14 Tell me what it is really like to be you for a day http://ow.ly/oewZi#iiwk13

Things TO SAY to an ill person #15 I made too much dinner for our family. Can I bring U some? http://ow.ly/oewZi#iiwk13

Things TO SAY to an ill person #16 U R amazing. How has your illness given you appreciation 4 life? http://ow.ly/oewZi#iiwk13

Things TO SAY to an ill person #17 Do U want me 2 come over while U wait 4 test results? http://ow.ly/oewZi#iiwk13

Things TO SAY to an ill person #18 U listen 2 me better than any other friend. Thanks http://ow.ly/oewZi#iiwk13

Things TO SAY to an ill person #19 I have Monday free if you need me 2 run some errands or take you http://ow.ly/oewZi#iiwk13

Things TO SAY to an ill person #20  Tell me about this God who gets U thru 1 more day? http://ow.ly/oewZi#iiwk13

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20 Things Not to Say to an Ill Person

June 19, 2009 by  
Filed under Things to Retweet, Ways to Help

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not to say 20 Things Not to Say to an Ill PersonWhen you have an invisible illness, some things people say can hurt.

Even when people have good intentions when they say things to someone with an illness, it can come out all wrong.

Join us for 20 tips in 20 days on what NOT to say to someone who is ill – Follow us @invisibleillwk and please RT! #iiwk13

#iiwk13-Things NOT to say to an ill person #1 – You look so good today! – see more http://ow.ly/eYpo

#iiwk13-Things NOT to say to an ill person #2 – You just need to get out of the house more – see more http://ow.ly/eYpo

#iiwk13-Things NOT to say to an ill person #3 – If you stop thinking about it, the pain will go away – see more http://ow.ly/eYpo

#iiwk13-Things NOT to say to an ill person #4 – You should just pray harder – see more http://ow.ly/eYpo

#iiwk13-Things NOT to say to an ill person #5 – You must not want to get better if you won’t try this – see more http://ow.ly/eYpo

#iiwk13-Things NOT to say to an ill person #6 – When I was your age I didn’t have the luxury of being sick – see more http://ow.ly/eYpo

#iiwk13-Things NOT to say to an ill person #7 – You’re sick again?? – see more http://ow.ly/eYpo

#iiwk13-Things NOT to say to an ill person #8 – I wish I could just sit around all day – see more http://ow.ly/eYpo

#iiwk13-Things NOT to say to an ill person #9 – No pain, no gain! – see more http://ow.ly/eYpo

#iiwk13-Things NOT to say to an ill person #10 – I’d be sick too if I saw doctors as much as you do – see more http://ow.ly/eYpo

#iiwk13-Things NOT to say to an ill person #11 – I have this juice that is working wonders… – see more http://ow.ly/eYpo

#iiwk13-Things NOT to say to an ill person #12 – You must still have sin in your life – see more http://ow.ly/eYpo

#iiwk13-Things NOT to say to an ill person #13 – If you got a job you’d have something else to think about – see more http://ow.ly/eYpo

#iiwk13-Things NOT to say to an ill person #14 – Your illness is caused by stress – see more http://ow.ly/eYpo

#iiwk13-Things NOT to say to an ill person #15 – You can’t be in that much pain. Maybe you just want attention – see more http://ow.ly/eYpo

#iiwk13-Things NOT to say to an ill person #16 – What have you done to make God so mad at you? – see more http://ow.ly/eYpo

#iiwk13-Things NOT to say to an ill person #17 – There are easier ways to get attention – see more http://ow.ly/eYpo

#iiwk13-Things NOT to say to an ill person #18 – It’s not good for your kids to always hear you whining – see more http://ow.ly/eYpo

#iiwk13-Things NOT to say to an ill person #19 – When are you going to get rid of that cane? – see more http://ow.ly/eYpo

#iiwk13-Things NOT to say to an ill person #20 – I’m so glad to see you out and about feeling all better – see more http://ow.ly/eYpo

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